Relationships

Got a call from a female friend of mine yesterday! We talked for about an hour before she hung up. I just got into thinking about relationships, but couldn't put something down. The weekend was too busy for me to blog.

Relationships....Mother, Father, friends, relatives, and then close friends, real close friends.... 'n then maybe a girlfriend/boyfriend. How do we relate to each of these? At different levels perhaps!? A mother/father can be like a friend, yes, .... but never a friend! The kind of relationship you enjoy with a friend is so different, coz you relate ate a different level. And then comes the question of girls...a girl as just a friend? Is it really possible? Yes, I say! No way!, so say many of my esteemed friends!

What is it about a boy and girl that is so strange? Why can't they share a good relationship...a good friendship, and nothing else!? People say that love always comes in between. I say that love always exists!!! Love is not something that is viewed in the narrow way that most people observe it! Love is all encompassing and does and must exist between friends.

Yes, there are relationships where love dominates more than friendship, but they are different... the level is different. And there are heartbreaks! And there are situations where you really do not know where you are - in friendship or in love. And these are the tricky ones - you profess your love...only to risk your friendship; or remain friends .... only to regret that you didn't say those words!!!

What does one do? Burn in the eternal fire of desire and longing or burn in the flames of rejection?
As Lord Tennyson says,

"...The silence of all hearts, Unutterable LOVE"

If only love was so easy, the world would have been a better place to live!

Sometimes it becomes so unbearable...the flame within you, the sense of loneliness, the desire to be with someone...and this is where relationships come in. And you never know when these turn into something more, more than friendship, more than love itself!! But you are silent...coz you assume! Because the world has taught you so! As Frost says,

"We dance round in a ring and suppose,
But the secret sits in the middle and knows"

The secret of a relationship? No one knows, at least I don't! All you do is live life... and wait for it to give you cues...cues that you hope you will recognize!

"They are all around", as the wise King tells the shepherd-boy in Paulo Coelho's Alchemist.. the cues are all around!

Maktub!